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In memory of Andrea

Wednesday, 24 June 2009 22:09

Andrea is a friend of my youngest sister, Helen.  She is 37 years old and died last week.  Andrea has three children (twins around 5 years old and a little boy about 1 1/2 years old).  I cannot stop thinking about her and her family.

Andrea has been a friend of my sister, Helen, since their teens.  I remember that she had her twins about the same time that Luke was born.  The last time I saw Andrea was at Harry's christening (Helen's little boy) last March.

It happened all of a sudden.  Andrea was feeling fine.  She had put her children to bed and was in the bathroom.  She called out to her husband and that was it.  It was a brain clot I think.

I cannot stop thinking about Andrea and her family.  It breaks my heart.  It seems so unfair.

One day she is a busy 37 year old mum, juggling looking after three young children and work and then she is gone.  I cannot imagine what her family must be going through - it must feel so unreal.

Even with a loving extended family, no-one can replace the love and comfort provided by a mother, especially of young children.  I can only very briefly think about how it would be for Luke if I died.

I told a lovely friend about what had happened and he said that it made him want to hug everyone he knows.  It is incredibly sad and it reminds us how important it is to remain fully present to those most important to us - first.  His words captured exactly what I was feeling.

I got to thinking about a book I had seen many years ago at a bookshop.  It was called A Year to Live: How to live this year as if it were your last by Stephen Levine.  I have not been drawn to buy the book, which is a bit peculiar as books are one of my delicious luxuries.

However, it has got me thinking - how would I live my life if I knew I was going to die in a year.  What would I do differently.  After contemplating this thought for a while, it has been really nice to realise that I would not change very much at all.  Indeed, it has given me an even greater understanding and appreciation of the fact that I am doing exactly what I want to be doing - and I know what is important to me.

I would worry less about the little things - it is so futile - and enjoy the moment more.  I have always thought I was not a worrier but I have come to realise that there are lots of little things that I worry about that become insignificant when you do not assume that you will be around for the long haul.  I would be nicer to Herby.  I would also let Luke wag kindy a bit more.

Spending time with the people I love - there is really nothing else that I need to do.  All the striving melts away.  I want to be there for my child; I want to be taken for granted and to always be there.

I keep thinking about what I could do for Andrea's family.  I keep sending lots of love.  I know that there is nothing I can really do but to let them know I am thinking about them.

I emailed my sister to make sure that she was fine with me doing this blog and that I could not stop thinking about how Andrea did not get to say goodbye properly - what if she was having a crappy day and that is how it was left.  Helen told me that Andrea's husband had said that Andrea had had a really good day with the kids.  The little one had eaten his chicken and she was really happy about it but to get him to eat his veggies she had given in and put sauce on them.  This made me so happy.

I will keep trying to be the best person I can be - the best mother I can be.

Every good thing we do counts - so lets do as many good things as we can.


 

 

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avatar Steve Davis
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Mary

The story of Andrea still haunts my waking moments. We cling to life by such a fine silver thread.

I believe we must strive to remember this every day as a motivator to stay present and available to people we meet - and not allow the thought to weigh us down with morbid thoughts.

Life is such a patchwork of bright lightness and heavy darkness that we can easily forget the one when dwelling in the other.

My thoughts are with Andrea's family - I cannot begin to understand how they must be feeling and what changes this will bring to their lives. I can only hope that they all find some way to find strength and remake their lives in a new way.

Steve
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Hi Steve
Thanks for your comment.
Life is so incredibly wonderful, but sometimes it hurts like hell.
It reminds me of a book I read quite a while ago by Simone de Beauvoir about a man who could not die - and it was horrible for him. If given the chance, we would probably not want to live forever but a long, fulfilled life with lots of love would be magnificent.
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